Check Your Intuition: Two Women Are In The Picture, But Only One Lady Is The Mother

Is your intuition good? Do you have a superpower of reading people’s minds? Can you tell something about a person from her appearance? Some people can see a lot. The body language experts can get information from a pose, gestures, and mimics. But even without having extraordinary skills, we sometimes are led by a gut feeling. Let’s find out how strong your sixth sense is! Here is a simple and fun test to see how good you are in reading other people.

Look at the picture! Two women are in one room sitting in front of each other. The boy is playing on the floor. Look at these ladies, they seem to be quite ordinary women. However, the pose and facial expression can tell a lot!

Give yourself time to think.

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Are you ready to find out the answer?

The mother is a woman on the left.

And now let’s find out how we know it. Women look similar, but their sitting positions are different. Woman on the left is bent slightly forward to the kid. Her legs are turned to his side too. If we look at the expression on her face, it also tells us a tory. The woman seems to be on guard, even though she looks relaxed and calm.

Pay attention to the boy. The way he is sitting can tell a lot too.

The boy is facing his mom. When a kid plays outside, they tend to keep a mother on the sight. Mom’s presence usually makes children feel safe and protected.

This puzzle may seem very difficult, but it can improve your intuition and creativity. And intuition plays an essential role in communication and it usually helps us make important decisions. A strong intuition is a very good thing, isn’t it? Do you rely on your intuition?

What Do You See On This Picture

This is one of the oldest optical illusions out there and it shows how fascinating the brain truly is.

Duck or Rabbit? How it began

In 1953, the BBC TV program, Right Hand, Left Hand, broadcasted this image of a duck / rabbit optical illussion to ask its viewers what they see. Thousands of people gave their interpretation of whether they saw a duck or a rabbit.

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At the time, the presenter, Dr. Jacob Bronowski opined that people saw the images differently depending on whether they were left or right-handed. However, a later study showed that the age and sex of the viewer were more likely to affect their perception of the image.

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What it says about your brain

In February 2018, a new study delved into how the brain sees this image and what it says about how our mind helps to interpret the things we see. The study, published in the SAGE Journals, showed that the information we have can determine how we see things, including this photo, for example.

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It was first discovered that no matter how hard a person looked, they could not see both the duck and the rabbit at the same time. However, when one researcher asked them to look at the image and imagine a duck eating a rabbit, they respondents were able to focus and see both images.

Neuroscientist and author of the study, Kyle Mathewson explained that when the researcher asked them to do this, the “brain sort of zooms out and can see the big picture when the images are put into context with one another.”

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In conclusion, Kyle explained that this experiment showed we can control how we interpret things by just using a few words to put it in context for our brain.

Other fascinating optical illusions

We never tire of these images and visuals that not only help us learn more about ourselves but teach us that we can each interpret the same situation in a unique way.

In this video below, you can find a few more optical illusions that have become popular over the years.

The brain is a mysterious thing indeed.

Dangerous summer stroller mistake most parents make

Being a parent is no easy task. Not only do you spend your days trying to prevent harm befalling them from the many dangers of the world, but there’s also a whole host of things you might not even think of just waiting to trip you up.

Everyone knows leaving children in hot cars is a big no-no, even for a few minutes.

According to Swedish researchers, covering your stroller with a blanket – even if it’s a very thin cloth – can do quite the opposite of what you’re intending.

The newspaper decided to do a stroller experiment of its own, just to see what would happen. Here’s what it found:

Without a cover: The temperature inside the a stroller left out in the heat was 22 degrees Celsius (71.6 degrees Fahrenheit.)

With a thin cover: In 30 minutes, the temperature rose to 34 degrees Celsius (93.2 degrees Fahrenheit.) And after an hour, it was at 37 degrees Celsius (98.6 degrees Fahrenheit.)

Sure, it seems only logical to cover your baby up and so protect them from the searing glare of the sun’s rays, but doing so can actually cause the temperature inside the stroller to rocket up to dangerous levels. A furnace-like effect is produced, making it extremely unsafe for a baby to be inside their stroller for any length of time.

What parents can do to avoid heatstroke in babies:

  • Dress your baby in lightweight, loose-fitting clothing.
  • Try to keep your baby in the shade when outside — and check to make sure that he’s staying cool during car rides.
  • Give him more fluids than usual on hot days.
  • If the temperature is especially hot, keep your baby inside if you can.
  • If your home is very hot and you don’t have air conditioning, seek comfort at a public library, the mall, or a community shelter provided especially for relief from the heat.

13 Reasons Why Men Cheat

The truth is that all sorts of dynamics can play into a man’s decision to engage in infidelity. Generally, though, his choice to cheat is driven by one or more of the following factors:

  1. Immaturity: If he does not have a lot of experience in committed relationships, or if he doesn’t fully understand that his actions will inevitably have consequences like hurting his partner, he may think it is fine to have sexual adventures. He might think of his commitment to monogamy as a jacket that he can put on or take off as he pleases, depending on the circumstances.
  2. Co-occurring Issues: He may have an ongoing problem with alcohol and, or, drugs that affect his decision-making, resulting in regrettable sexual decisions. Or maybe he has a problem like sexual addiction, meaning he compulsively engages in sexual fantasies and behaviors as a way to numb out and avoid life.
  3. Insecurity: He may feel as if he is too old (or too young), not handsome enough, not rich enough, not smart enough, etc. (An astonishing amount of male cheating is linked, at least in part, to a mid-life crisis.) To bolster his flagging ego, he seeks validation from women other than his mate, using this sextracurricular spark of interest to feel wanted, desired, and worthy.
  4. It’s Over, Version 1: He may want to end his current relationship. However, instead of just telling his partner that he’s unhappy and wants to break things off, he cheats and then forces her to do the dirty work.
  5. It’s Over, Version 2: He may want to end his current relationship, but not until he’s got another one lined up. So he sets the stage for his next relationship while still in the first one.
  6. Lack of Male Social Support: He may have undervalued his need for supportive friendships with other men, expecting his social and emotional needs to be met entirely by his significant other. And when she inevitably fails in that duty, he seeks fulfillment elsewhere.
  7. Confusion About Limerence versus Commitment: He might misunderstand the difference between romantic intensity and long-term love, mistaking the neurochemical rush of early romance, technically referred to as limerence, for love, and failing to understand that in healthy, long-term relationships limerence is replaced over time with less intense, but ultimately more meaningful forms of connection.
  8. Childhood Abuse: He may be reenacting or latently responding to unresolved childhood trauma—neglect, emotional abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, etc. In such cases, his childhood wounds have created attachment and intimacy issues that leave him unable or unwilling to fully commit to one person. He might also be using the excitement and distraction of sexual infidelity as a way to self-soothe the pain of these old, unhealed wounds.
  9. Selfishness: It’s possible that his primary consideration is for himself and himself alone. He can therefore lie and keep secrets without remorse or regret, as long as it gets him what he wants. It’s possible he never intended to be monogamous. Rather than seeing his vow of monogamy as a sacrifice made to and for his relationship, he views it as something to be avoided and worked around.
  10. Terminal Uniqueness: He may feel like he is different and deserves something special that other men might not. The usual rules just don’t apply to him, so he is free to reward himself outside his primary relationship whenever he wants.
  11. Unfettered Impulse: He may never have even thought about cheating until an opportunity suddenly presented itself. Then, without even thinking about what infidelity might do to his relationship, he went for it.
  12. Unrealistic Expectations: He may feel that his partner should meet his every whim and desire, sexual and otherwise, 24/7, regardless of how she feels at any particular moment. He fails to understand that she has a life of her own, with thoughts and feelings and needs that don’t always involve him. When his expectations are not met, he seeks external fulfillment.
  13. Anger, Revenge: He may cheat to get revenge. He is angry with his mate and wants to hurt her. In such cases, the infidelity is meant to be seen and known. The man does not bother to lie or keep secrets about his cheating, because he wants his partner to know about it.

7 Facts Women (And Men) Should Know About the Vagina

Despite the displays of female sexuality on the Internet, and scantily clad pop stars and models, the word vagina seems to remain taboo.

In fact, myths and misinformation seem to surround the vagina. For example, you might read on the web that the hymen — the membrane that partially covers the opening of the vagina and breaks during first intercourse — can grow back if you don’t have sex for a long while. It can’t.

Also, there hasn’t been much resolution concerning female ejaculation. The medical community still can’t determine whether it exists, yet evidence — some of it dating to nearly 2,000 years ago — suggests that the phenomenon is real.

To separate fact from fiction and myth from reality, we’ve rounded seven facts worth knowing about a woman’s nether regions.

The vagina is just one part of a women’s private parts

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Sometimes, a woman’s entire genital region is referred to as the vagina. But in fact, the vagina is just a part of the package, so to speak. The outer portion of a woman’s privates is actually called the vulva. That includes the inner and outer labia, the clitoris, clitoral hood and the opening to the urethra and vagina.

The actual vagina is an internal structure, along with the other parts of the female reproductive system including the cervix, uterus, ovaries and Fallopian tubes (which are sometimes called the oviducts).

Kegel exercises don’t only work for orgasms

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Along with helping women who have problems reaching an orgasm, Kegel exercises also strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which can help women who have trouble holding in their urine, stool or gas.

“You can do these exercises just about anywhere,” said Dr. Courtney Leigh Barnes, a gynecologist at the University of Missouri.

To do a kegel exercise, act as though you are going to stop peeing and hold it for a couple of seconds, or you can insert your finger into the vagina and tighten your muscles, Barnes said.

“These exercises can also be used to help with pelvic organ prolapse,” Barnes said.

Pelvic organ prolapse is a condition in which the organs in the pelvis—like the bladder—drops and pushes against the vagina.

Probiotic supplements could help keep the balance

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Probiotics, also known as the “friendly bacteria,” have become a popular treatment against the “bad” bacteria that might cause harm to the body. Some evidence suggests they help digestion and combat diarrhea and gut inflammation.

A few studies have also hinted that using probiotics could help against vaginal infections, such as yeast infections, but according to Barnes, “there isn’t enough proof to make a specific recommendation.”

“More research needs to be done to say for sure when, how much, and what type of probiotics are helpful,” she said.

Barnes said she has had patients who suffered from chronic vaginal infections who have felt better after taking probiotics.

“If I have a patient with recurrent vaginal infections, I will recommend probiotics in the form of fermented goat’s milk,” she said, but its not right for everyone, including people with lactose intolerance.

Discharges women should worry about

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Although the vagina is considered a self-cleaning organ, and some discharge is normal, that doesn’t mean it’s not vulnerable.

“Any vaginal discharge that seems excessive, painful, irritating or foul in odor should be evaluated by a doctor,” Barnes said.

Some women try to diagnose their own vaginal infections at home, and use over-the-counter medications. “Unfortunately, research has shown that patients aren’t very accurate when it comes to self-diagnosis,” Barnes said.

She recommends that women get evaluated if there is an abnormal discharge. Although it can sometimes be as simple as a yeast infection, “other times, the infection can be more complicated, or even a sexually transmitted infection,” she said.

Sex can keep the vagina healthy — especially for postmenopausal women

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Through the various stages of women’s lives — including childbirth and breastfeeding, as well as normal aging and menopause — the body undergoes hormonal changes that could lead to vaginal dryness.

“Estrogen helps keep the vagina healthy and lubricated,” Barnes said. “Once estrogen levels drop, the vagina can become dry, and sometimes even be a source of pain.”

Experts say that having sex can prevent the vagina from becoming thin and tight.

“Safe vaginal intercourse can help keep the vagina healthy and dilated,” Barnes said.

To help make intercourse more comfortable, she suggested using lubricants. And for women who experience extreme dryness and discomfort, using hormonal therapies in the form of pills, patches, vaginal rings or creams may be an option.

“There are some risks to certain types of hormone therapy,” she cautioned, “so it’s important for women to discuss them with their doctor before making a decision to use them.”

Good and bad bacteria

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It’s normal to have bacteria in your vagina. In fact, there are some bacteria known as lactobacilli that keep the acidity of the vagina in the normal range.

But sometimes the balance between good and bad bacteria can be disrupted. When that happens, women could experience a discharge that smells fishy, or have an itching or burning sensation, Barnes said.

But there are ways that women can keep their vaginas healthy, and keep the good bacteria present, she noted.

“I always tell my patients to avoid douching,” she said. “Flushing out the vagina with anything that might kill the lactobacilli can result in an overgrowth of other types of problematic bacteria.”

She also recommended using soaps to clean only the hair-covered areas of skin.

“Water is sufficient for cleaning the non-hair-bearing regions,” she said.

The clitoris isn’t just a small pink nub

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The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings aimed for sexual pleasure — that’s double the number in the penis, according to experts.

The clitoris, which is a small pink organ that lies underneath the clitoral hood, is a powerhouse of pleasure. Although it extends into the vagina for about three inches, and connects with the controversial G-spot area,the clitoris is considered an “external” organ. As researchers noted in a 2011 article in the journal Obstetrics and Gynecology, “the glans and body are visible, while the roots are hidden, therefore they are not “internal.'”

In other words, the most visible part of the clitoris is only a small part of it — it extends from there like roots of a tree. The length of the whole clitoris has been estimated to be nearly four inches long.

Signs Your Body Has Too Much Estrogen

Estrogen dominance can be very common, and despite knowing the signs and symptoms of this condition, you should also know what to do if you are suffering from it.

Yet, before we reveal one effective and simple protocol to help you balance your hormones, we will list the 10 most common symptoms of estrogen dominance:

  1. Abnormal menstrual periods
  2. Low libido
  3. Fatigue
  4. Bad PMS (breast tenderness/swelling, mood swings, and headaches)
  5. Hair loss
  6. Weight gain (especially hips and abs)
  7. Brain fog
  8. Trouble sleeping
  9. Thyroid dysfunction
  10. Sluggish metabolism

Here are the steps you should follow in order to restore the healthy hormonal balance in the body:

Step 1: Eliminate Xenoestrogens

Nowadays, we are constantly being exposed to various chemicals, and one of them is “xenoestrogen,” which can mimic estrogen in the body. Therefore, in order to avoid these adverse effects, you should avoid the use of the following top offenders:

  • Plastic Tupperware
  • Plastic water bottles
  • BPA cans
  • Cosmetics, makeup, and toiletries
  • Tap water
  • Non-organic dairy, produce
  • Soy protein isolate
  • Dryer sheets
  • Birth control pill

Step 2: Efficient Elimination

This step is essential as it will ensure the removal of estrogen, and prevent its re-entrance into the bloodstream in the case of chronic constipation. Therefore, make sure you are having daily bowel movements, and in case you are not:

  • Drink 2-3L of water daily
  • Increase the intake of fiber-rich foods
  • Increase the intake of vegetables with every meal
  • Consume probiotics such as kefir, yogurt, miso, tempeh
  • To promote bowel movements, supplement with magnesium citrate or Triphala

Moreover, in order to help the removal of waste and toxins from the body, you should also:

  • Exercise or go to a sauna to stimulate sweating
  • Breathe deeply to support the lungs
  • Massage your body to support the lymph
  • Use a dry skin brush to eliminate dead skin cells

 Step 3: Improve Liver Health  and Estrogen Detoxification

Estrogen is effectively removed by a well-functioning liver. In the first stage, the liver turns harmful estrogen intro milder, weaker forms of estrogen, and in the second stage, it converts it into a water-soluble form, so you can eliminate it through the stool or urine.

Yet, the liver won’t be able to fulfill its function if the body lacks important nutrients, or it is overburdened with other chemicals, accumulated due to the use of processed foods, drugs, and alcohol.

To support the function of the liver, you should”

  • Drink lots of filtrated water
  • Do not drink alcohol
  • Each a real, whole-foods based diet
  • Avoid overeating
  • Eat foods that support liver health, such as kale, dandelion greens, beets, garlic, eggs, dark leafy greens, artichoke, onions, leeks, shallots, broccoli, cabbage, Brussels sprouts, etc.)
  • Take B-vitamins (in particular, B6, B12 and Folic Acid), as well as some hormone balancing formula that contains one or all of the following: DIM, Calcium-D-Glucarate, Indole-3-Carbinol, sulforaphane
  • Supplement with botanical that improve the function of the liver, like rosemary, burdock, red clover, barberry, milk thistle, dandelion root, Oregon grape root, gentian, licorice, ginger, wild yam.

Furthermore, in order to kick start your metabolism and improve your overall healthy by detoxifying and energizing the body, you should try some effective detox program, using medicinal herbs that are made using 100% USDA organic ingredients and also laxative-free, such as dandelion root, milk thistle seed (to improve detoxification of the liver), yerba mate and matcha ( to energize the body), or valerian root and passion flower to relax, and soothe anxious thoughts.

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10 signs your liver is sluggish and tips to help detoxify

SIGNS YOU MAY NEED TO SUPPORT LIVER HEALTH

When your liver is overwhelmed with the burden of high toxin exposure you start to feel the effects in your whole mind-body.

ACUTE SIGNS YOUR LIVER IS STRUGGLING INCLUDE:

  • Feeling sluggish, tired and fatigued constantly
  • White or yellow-coated tongue and/or bad breath
  • Weight gain – especially around the abdomen
  • Cravings and/or blood sugar issues
  • Headaches
  • Poor digestion
  • Feeling nauseas after fatty meals
  • Intolerant to strong smells such as perfumes
  • Pain in the right side of your stomach
  • Skin breakouts; acne, rashes

If your liver is under stress for a long time a condition called fatty liver develops. Fatty liver is the build-up of excess fat in the liver. It’s a common condition in Western countries, affecting 1 in 10 people. Serious conditions such as diabetes, metabolic syndrome, cirrhosis and cancer ensue after fatty liver.

THREE TIPS TO SUPPORT LIVER DETOXIFICATION

Remove foods that are especially harmful to your liver
  • Eliminate all refined and processed foods such as simple carbohydrates and refined sugar. This includes all biscuits, cakes, white breads, soft drinks and baked goods.
  • Substitute toxic and poor quality fats and oils like canola oil, corn oil, margarine and trans fats for good quality oils such as ghee, butter, coconut oil or rice bran oil.
  • Decrease animal products, especially red meat and processed meats.
  • Eliminate or greatly reduce alcohol. If you have experienced 3 or more of the above symptoms end immediately.
  • Minimise/ Avoid coffee
Include foods into your diet that support liver and digestive function
  • Eat fresh, seasonal, wholefoods, fruits and vegetables. Preferably organic if this is an option.
  • Start the day with a big cup of warm water and fresh lemon juice. Drink enough water throughout the day – 1 cup every hour.
  • Foods that support liver detoxification:
  • Beetroot, turmeric, onion, garlic, broccoli, Brussel sprouts, cauliflower, green leafy vegetables (especially the bitter kind such as Rocket, endive, dandelion leaves), wheat germ, legumes, grapefruit, lemon
  • A fresh juice of beetroot, ginger, carrot and celery daily greatly assists.
Herbal Medicine
  • St Marys Thistle

St Mary’s thistle is also commonly known as Milk Thistle. It is the best herb to restore liver cells. The liver of course is the organ that can easily regenerate itself. Milk Thistle stimulates detoxification as its balancing for both phases of detoxification. It also helps the liver to deal with fat better. Research shows Milk Thistle is effective in treating fatty liver disease (Cacciapuoti, et al, 2013). It’s a potent antioxidant so protects the liver from harmful free radicals and chemicals.

  • Dandelion Root

Traditionally Dandelion root is used to clear a sluggish or congested liver. In modern medicine it’s been shown to increases bile flow. Increased bile flow supports the removal of the packaged toxins through phase 2 to be eliminated from the body more efficiently. Increased bile flow also assists in strengthening digestive function and helps to relive constipation. Dandelion leaves are eater as a bitter green in a salad. The dried root also makes a tea and is often used a coffee substitute.

How Your Sleeping Position Affects Your Health

Since time is very precious, it is of the utmost importance that the time spent sleeping is well spent. This article brings you an in-depth analysis of the various sleeping positions to help you choose the right one for yourself. Check them out!

1. Soldier position

Also known as the soldier position, sleeping on your back with your hands at your sides is considered to be the best sleeping posture. This posture is similar to the Savasana pose in yoga, and it is known to have many health benefits.

Pros:

  • Perfect position to rest the spine, neck, and arms.
  • Helps improve the overall posture.
  • Reduces acid reflux.
  • Helps maintain perky breasts.
  • Cures insomnia.
  • Decreases the chances of headaches.
  • Prevents facial wrinkles.

Cons:

  • May aggravate snoring in people suffering from sleep apnea.
  • Can negatively affect a fetus.
  • Can cause lower back pain.

Solutions:

  • Try sleeping on your back without a pillow. It will keep your body in a neutral position and might help reduce snoring.
  • Using a large pillow under the back of your knees will help support the natural curve of your lower back.

2. Starfish position

In this position, a person lies on their back but with their arms up on both sides of their head.

Pros:

  • Excellent position to rest the spine and the neck.
  • Cures insomnia.
  • Decreases the chances of headaches.
  • It helps reduce acid reflux since the head is elevated and the stomach is able to sit below, so substances from the stomach can’t re-enter the esophagus.
  • Prevents facial wrinkles and skin breakouts.

Cons:

  • This posture may aggravate snoring in people suffering from sleep apnea.
  • The awkward position of the arms can exert pressure on the nerves in the shoulder, causing pain.
  • Can cause lower back pain.

Solution:

  • Avoid using a pillow while sleeping in this position to allow your head, neck, and spine to rest in a natural position.

3. Log position

While sleeping in this posture, you lie on your side with both arms positioned downward in a straight line. Sleeping on the left is considered one of the ideal sleeping positions as it offers quite a few health benefits.

Pros:

  • Ideal sleeping position for the spine as it receives complete support in its natural curve.
  • Prevents back and neck pain.
  • Reduces sleep apnea and snoring.
  • This is the best sleeping position for pregnant women.

Cons:

  • As your top leg does not get enough support, the chances are high that you may develop back or hip pain.
  • Side sleeping can lead to skin aging, facial wrinkles, and sagging breasts.
  • It can cause neck pain.

Solutions:

  • As this position can cause neck pain due to improper support to the neck, it is recommended to use a big pillow.
  • Place a pillow between your thighs to support your top leg.

4. Yearner position

The yearner position is actually sleeping on the left side with the arms outstretched. It is recommended to lie on your left side to better rest your vital organs.

Pros:

  • Prevents neck and back pains.
  • Lying on your left side can reduce acid reflux.
  • Helps reduce sleep apnea and snoring.
  • Relieves heartburn.
  • Allows the body to clear waste from the brain more efficiently and decreases the risk of developing disorders like Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s.
  • Research shows that people sleeping in this position are less likely to wake up in the middle of the night. This is most likely due to the comfort the body gets.

Cons:

  • Restricts the proper flow of blood and puts pressure on the nerves, which may result in pain in the shoulders and arms.
  • Nerve compression may place a strain on internal organs like the stomach, liver, and lungs.
  • Can cause saggy breasts and premature skin aging.

Solutions:

  • Sleep on a satin pillowcase to reduce the chances of facial wrinkles.
  • Place a pillow between your knees to support your upper leg.

5. Fetal position

The fetal position involves sleeping with your knees drawn towards the chest and your chin down. It’s incredibly popular with women and experts suggest sleeping on the left side due to the benefits it offers.

Pros:

  • Reduces snoring considerably.
  • One of the preferred positions for pregnant women.
  • Sleeping on the left side can help reduce acid reflux.

Cons:

  • The extreme curl can put a strain on the neck and back, thereby causing pain.
  • This position, like other side-sleeping positions, can cause skin wrinkles and saggy breasts.

Solutions:

  • Use a firm pillow to support your head.
  • It is recommended that people sleeping in this position alternate sides during the night.

6. Freefall position

Lying flat on your stomach while sleeping is not the best sleeping position, and most experts advise against it.

Pros:

  • In some cases, it has been found to reduce snoring.

Cons:

  • Puts a strain on the spine and causes pain in the neck and lower spine.
  • Since the blood circulation is cut off from the face, it leads to the development of wrinkles.
  • Puts unnatural stress on the internal organs.

Why Do You Always Wake Up at 3 a.m.?

Next time you wake from a sound sleep and roll over to see those familiar numbers on the bedside clock, know that many others are doing the same thing.

Whether your time is 3 a.m. or 1 a.m. or any other time, you’re one of many people who experience regular nighttime awakenings.

The time — while it may be surprisingly predictable, down to the minute — really isn’t significant, says psychologist and sleep expert Alexa Kane, PsyD.

“At one point, you may have had a reason to wake up at that time, maybe in response to sleep apnea or a crying baby,” she says. “Your body may have become conditioned to it.”

Regardless, nighttime awakenings are a common phenomenon and usually harmless, especially if you easily doze off again. They do not mean you’re a bad sleeper. And they do not mean you have insomnia.

When are regular awakenings a problem?

Waking up at night, by itself, isn’t a problem. However, waking up and staying awake can be.

“If you wake up and begin to experience worry, anxiety or frustration, you likely have activated your sympathetic nervous system, your ‘fight-or-flight’ system,” says Dr. Kane. “When this happens, your brain switches from sleep mode to wake mode. Your mind may start to race, and your heart rate and blood pressure may go up. That makes it much harder to get back to sleep.”

This stress response can lead to insomnia, a full-blown sleep disorder.

Regularly waking up at night also can be a symptom of sleep apnea. If you have this disorder, you occasionally stop breathing during sleep. Besides waking you up, sleep apnea can disrupt your heart rhythm and reduce the flow of oxygen to your body.

Other symptoms of sleep apnea include:

  • Snoring.
  • Being jolted awake while choking or gasping for air.
  • Daytime sleepiness or fatigue.

“If you have these symptoms, see a physician sleep expert,” says Dr. Kane. “Untreated sleep apnea can cause heart disease, diabetes, obesity and other health problems.”

Next time it happens, do this

The next time you wake up at 3 a.m. (or whatever time), give yourself 15 to 20 minutes to doze back into dreamland. It’s OK.

If you’re awake longer than that, it’s best to get out of bed, says Dr. Kane.

“Our brains are highly associative,” she says. “That means if we stay in bed for a long time when not sleeping, our brains can associate the bed with wakeful activities like worrying and planning, instead of sleep. Getting out of bed breaks that association.”

When you get out of bed, do something that promotes sleep:

  • Practice deep breathing.
  • Meditate.
  • Read something boring.
  • Do not use your cell phone, check email or do anything else that might make your brain think it’s time to wake up and work.

“Relaxation exercises can help you shut off your body’s fight-or-flight response and activate a rest-and-digest response,” says Dr. Kane. “When your body calms down and you feel sleepy again, head back to bed.”

Consistency is key

The best way to put an end to late-night awakenings is to keep a consistent sleep-wake schedule. That means getting up at the same time each day, even on weekends.

Having other good sleep habits is just as important.

“Give yourself 30 to 60 minutes before bed to wind down and prepare your body and mind for sleep,” Dr. Kane says. “Use this time to plan for the next day, writing down your worries, concerns and frustrations so you don’t need to perform those mental gymnastics while in bed at 3 a.m.”

The more you follow these recommendations, the faster you’ll put your nighttime awakenings to bed once and for all, she says.

“We often see chronic insomnia develop in people with ineffective sleep routines — such as waking at 3 a.m. and staying in bed for hours trying to fall back to sleep,” says Dr. Kane. “This behavior leads to the association that bed does not mean sleep and, therefore, reinforces insomnia.”

When to see a sleep expert

When your lack of sleep starts to mess with your work performance, concentration or memory, or is causing you distress, it’s time to see a sleep expert. Your primary care provider can help you find one.

Marriage advice from a divorced woman

You can take this seriously or with a dose of humor, but your relationship afterwards will be better than ever. This has been a learning experience for me and now, I’m sharing it with you. This is what I learned about marriage from a divorced woman.

This woman got divorced after 7 years of married life.

In her experience she has come to see a lot of key points in the concept of marriage. This is what she said to me:

The responsibility of making a relationship work is shared by men and women. For all the things I’ve said about husbands there is a point for wives too.

1.Try to see the best in him all the time. Don’t look only the negative things in him, but instead try to ignore them and focus on the things you like about him.

2. Have sexual relations on a regular basis. It’s simple – have sex with your husband as much as possible. Once, an older women gave me this advice to make love with my husband even when I’m not in the mood.

Making love is like a drug that heals the wounds we cause to each other during marriage. If you feel distanced from your partner that indicates it is a time for some romance. And let me tell you Janice was right when she gave me this advice!

3. Don’t be ashamed to ask help from someone experienced. Sometimes when we are emotional, it is not possible for us to make the right choice. The best thing to do is to ask for advice from someone that has experience. You could ask for an opinion from someone your own age, but the advice from an older woman is much better.

4. Let him rest sometimes. Don’t be afraid, he is not ignoring you, man sometimes have timeouts in their head. Let them have that time out and chill a bit. It is healthy for your relationship.

5. Do not try to change him, it is not your responsibility to make him a better person. We are all living our own life the way our mindset is set to do, and no one can change that. If you do try to change him you will only cause a conflict. He simply has a different mindset, so let it go.

6. Support him all the time by giving him compliments about how strong and smart he is. Man often forget these things, and there is no better person to remind them of this than their wives. Remind them of this and they will appreciate it.

7. Don’t ever think that your man did not choose you. Never forget that this man chose you. He picked you for a reason, don’t take it for granted.

8. Laugh when he makes a joke. It is very positive to laugh at his jokes, even if they are not funny. Man want to be funny and interesting for their girl. Sometimes they aren’t, but since they were interesting enough for you to marry them, the least you can do is laugh on the rare occasions when their joke is dumb.

9. Nobody else but us is responsible for our own actions. We are responsible for our actions regardless of our emotional state. Emotions can’t be an excuse for the actions we take. Count to ten before you do anything.

10. Make him his favorite meal. It won’t hurt you to surprise him with his favorite meal!