13 Reasons Why Men Cheat

The truth is that all sorts of dynamics can play into a man’s decision to engage in infidelity. Generally, though, his choice to cheat is driven by one or more of the following factors:

  1. Immaturity: If he does not have a lot of experience in committed relationships, or if he doesn’t fully understand that his actions will inevitably have consequences like hurting his partner, he may think it is fine to have sexual adventures. He might think of his commitment to monogamy as a jacket that he can put on or take off as he pleases, depending on the circumstances.
  2. Co-occurring Issues: He may have an ongoing problem with alcohol and, or, drugs that affect his decision-making, resulting in regrettable sexual decisions. Or maybe he has a problem like sexual addiction, meaning he compulsively engages in sexual fantasies and behaviors as a way to numb out and avoid life.
  3. Insecurity: He may feel as if he is too old (or too young), not handsome enough, not rich enough, not smart enough, etc. (An astonishing amount of male cheating is linked, at least in part, to a mid-life crisis.) To bolster his flagging ego, he seeks validation from women other than his mate, using this sextracurricular spark of interest to feel wanted, desired, and worthy.
  4. It’s Over, Version 1: He may want to end his current relationship. However, instead of just telling his partner that he’s unhappy and wants to break things off, he cheats and then forces her to do the dirty work.
  5. It’s Over, Version 2: He may want to end his current relationship, but not until he’s got another one lined up. So he sets the stage for his next relationship while still in the first one.
  6. Lack of Male Social Support: He may have undervalued his need for supportive friendships with other men, expecting his social and emotional needs to be met entirely by his significant other. And when she inevitably fails in that duty, he seeks fulfillment elsewhere.
  7. Confusion About Limerence versus Commitment: He might misunderstand the difference between romantic intensity and long-term love, mistaking the neurochemical rush of early romance, technically referred to as limerence, for love, and failing to understand that in healthy, long-term relationships limerence is replaced over time with less intense, but ultimately more meaningful forms of connection.
  8. Childhood Abuse: He may be reenacting or latently responding to unresolved childhood trauma—neglect, emotional abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, etc. In such cases, his childhood wounds have created attachment and intimacy issues that leave him unable or unwilling to fully commit to one person. He might also be using the excitement and distraction of sexual infidelity as a way to self-soothe the pain of these old, unhealed wounds.
  9. Selfishness: It’s possible that his primary consideration is for himself and himself alone. He can therefore lie and keep secrets without remorse or regret, as long as it gets him what he wants. It’s possible he never intended to be monogamous. Rather than seeing his vow of monogamy as a sacrifice made to and for his relationship, he views it as something to be avoided and worked around.
  10. Terminal Uniqueness: He may feel like he is different and deserves something special that other men might not. The usual rules just don’t apply to him, so he is free to reward himself outside his primary relationship whenever he wants.
  11. Unfettered Impulse: He may never have even thought about cheating until an opportunity suddenly presented itself. Then, without even thinking about what infidelity might do to his relationship, he went for it.
  12. Unrealistic Expectations: He may feel that his partner should meet his every whim and desire, sexual and otherwise, 24/7, regardless of how she feels at any particular moment. He fails to understand that she has a life of her own, with thoughts and feelings and needs that don’t always involve him. When his expectations are not met, he seeks external fulfillment.
  13. Anger, Revenge: He may cheat to get revenge. He is angry with his mate and wants to hurt her. In such cases, the infidelity is meant to be seen and known. The man does not bother to lie or keep secrets about his cheating, because he wants his partner to know about it.

7 Facts Women (And Men) Should Know About the Vagina

Despite the displays of female sexuality on the Internet, and scantily clad pop stars and models, the word vagina seems to remain taboo.

In fact, myths and misinformation seem to surround the vagina. For example, you might read on the web that the hymen — the membrane that partially covers the opening of the vagina and breaks during first intercourse — can grow back if you don’t have sex for a long while. It can’t.

Also, there hasn’t been much resolution concerning female ejaculation. The medical community still can’t determine whether it exists, yet evidence — some of it dating to nearly 2,000 years ago — suggests that the phenomenon is real.

To separate fact from fiction and myth from reality, we’ve rounded seven facts worth knowing about a woman’s nether regions.

The vagina is just one part of a women’s private parts

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Sometimes, a woman’s entire genital region is referred to as the vagina. But in fact, the vagina is just a part of the package, so to speak. The outer portion of a woman’s privates is actually called the vulva. That includes the inner and outer labia, the clitoris, clitoral hood and the opening to the urethra and vagina.

The actual vagina is an internal structure, along with the other parts of the female reproductive system including the cervix, uterus, ovaries and Fallopian tubes (which are sometimes called the oviducts).

Kegel exercises don’t only work for orgasms

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Along with helping women who have problems reaching an orgasm, Kegel exercises also strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which can help women who have trouble holding in their urine, stool or gas.

“You can do these exercises just about anywhere,” said Dr. Courtney Leigh Barnes, a gynecologist at the University of Missouri.

To do a kegel exercise, act as though you are going to stop peeing and hold it for a couple of seconds, or you can insert your finger into the vagina and tighten your muscles, Barnes said.

“These exercises can also be used to help with pelvic organ prolapse,” Barnes said.

Pelvic organ prolapse is a condition in which the organs in the pelvis—like the bladder—drops and pushes against the vagina.

Probiotic supplements could help keep the balance

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Probiotics, also known as the “friendly bacteria,” have become a popular treatment against the “bad” bacteria that might cause harm to the body. Some evidence suggests they help digestion and combat diarrhea and gut inflammation.

A few studies have also hinted that using probiotics could help against vaginal infections, such as yeast infections, but according to Barnes, “there isn’t enough proof to make a specific recommendation.”

“More research needs to be done to say for sure when, how much, and what type of probiotics are helpful,” she said.

Barnes said she has had patients who suffered from chronic vaginal infections who have felt better after taking probiotics.

“If I have a patient with recurrent vaginal infections, I will recommend probiotics in the form of fermented goat’s milk,” she said, but its not right for everyone, including people with lactose intolerance.

Discharges women should worry about

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Although the vagina is considered a self-cleaning organ, and some discharge is normal, that doesn’t mean it’s not vulnerable.

“Any vaginal discharge that seems excessive, painful, irritating or foul in odor should be evaluated by a doctor,” Barnes said.

Some women try to diagnose their own vaginal infections at home, and use over-the-counter medications. “Unfortunately, research has shown that patients aren’t very accurate when it comes to self-diagnosis,” Barnes said.

She recommends that women get evaluated if there is an abnormal discharge. Although it can sometimes be as simple as a yeast infection, “other times, the infection can be more complicated, or even a sexually transmitted infection,” she said.

Sex can keep the vagina healthy — especially for postmenopausal women

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Through the various stages of women’s lives — including childbirth and breastfeeding, as well as normal aging and menopause — the body undergoes hormonal changes that could lead to vaginal dryness.

“Estrogen helps keep the vagina healthy and lubricated,” Barnes said. “Once estrogen levels drop, the vagina can become dry, and sometimes even be a source of pain.”

Experts say that having sex can prevent the vagina from becoming thin and tight.

“Safe vaginal intercourse can help keep the vagina healthy and dilated,” Barnes said.

To help make intercourse more comfortable, she suggested using lubricants. And for women who experience extreme dryness and discomfort, using hormonal therapies in the form of pills, patches, vaginal rings or creams may be an option.

“There are some risks to certain types of hormone therapy,” she cautioned, “so it’s important for women to discuss them with their doctor before making a decision to use them.”

Good and bad bacteria

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It’s normal to have bacteria in your vagina. In fact, there are some bacteria known as lactobacilli that keep the acidity of the vagina in the normal range.

But sometimes the balance between good and bad bacteria can be disrupted. When that happens, women could experience a discharge that smells fishy, or have an itching or burning sensation, Barnes said.

But there are ways that women can keep their vaginas healthy, and keep the good bacteria present, she noted.

“I always tell my patients to avoid douching,” she said. “Flushing out the vagina with anything that might kill the lactobacilli can result in an overgrowth of other types of problematic bacteria.”

She also recommended using soaps to clean only the hair-covered areas of skin.

“Water is sufficient for cleaning the non-hair-bearing regions,” she said.

The clitoris isn’t just a small pink nub

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The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings aimed for sexual pleasure — that’s double the number in the penis, according to experts.

The clitoris, which is a small pink organ that lies underneath the clitoral hood, is a powerhouse of pleasure. Although it extends into the vagina for about three inches, and connects with the controversial G-spot area,the clitoris is considered an “external” organ. As researchers noted in a 2011 article in the journal Obstetrics and Gynecology, “the glans and body are visible, while the roots are hidden, therefore they are not “internal.'”

In other words, the most visible part of the clitoris is only a small part of it — it extends from there like roots of a tree. The length of the whole clitoris has been estimated to be nearly four inches long.

Signs Your Body Has Too Much Estrogen

Estrogen dominance can be very common, and despite knowing the signs and symptoms of this condition, you should also know what to do if you are suffering from it.

Yet, before we reveal one effective and simple protocol to help you balance your hormones, we will list the 10 most common symptoms of estrogen dominance:

  1. Abnormal menstrual periods
  2. Low libido
  3. Fatigue
  4. Bad PMS (breast tenderness/swelling, mood swings, and headaches)
  5. Hair loss
  6. Weight gain (especially hips and abs)
  7. Brain fog
  8. Trouble sleeping
  9. Thyroid dysfunction
  10. Sluggish metabolism

Here are the steps you should follow in order to restore the healthy hormonal balance in the body:

Step 1: Eliminate Xenoestrogens

Nowadays, we are constantly being exposed to various chemicals, and one of them is “xenoestrogen,” which can mimic estrogen in the body. Therefore, in order to avoid these adverse effects, you should avoid the use of the following top offenders:

  • Plastic Tupperware
  • Plastic water bottles
  • BPA cans
  • Cosmetics, makeup, and toiletries
  • Tap water
  • Non-organic dairy, produce
  • Soy protein isolate
  • Dryer sheets
  • Birth control pill

Step 2: Efficient Elimination

This step is essential as it will ensure the removal of estrogen, and prevent its re-entrance into the bloodstream in the case of chronic constipation. Therefore, make sure you are having daily bowel movements, and in case you are not:

  • Drink 2-3L of water daily
  • Increase the intake of fiber-rich foods
  • Increase the intake of vegetables with every meal
  • Consume probiotics such as kefir, yogurt, miso, tempeh
  • To promote bowel movements, supplement with magnesium citrate or Triphala

Moreover, in order to help the removal of waste and toxins from the body, you should also:

  • Exercise or go to a sauna to stimulate sweating
  • Breathe deeply to support the lungs
  • Massage your body to support the lymph
  • Use a dry skin brush to eliminate dead skin cells

 Step 3: Improve Liver Health  and Estrogen Detoxification

Estrogen is effectively removed by a well-functioning liver. In the first stage, the liver turns harmful estrogen intro milder, weaker forms of estrogen, and in the second stage, it converts it into a water-soluble form, so you can eliminate it through the stool or urine.

Yet, the liver won’t be able to fulfill its function if the body lacks important nutrients, or it is overburdened with other chemicals, accumulated due to the use of processed foods, drugs, and alcohol.

To support the function of the liver, you should”

  • Drink lots of filtrated water
  • Do not drink alcohol
  • Each a real, whole-foods based diet
  • Avoid overeating
  • Eat foods that support liver health, such as kale, dandelion greens, beets, garlic, eggs, dark leafy greens, artichoke, onions, leeks, shallots, broccoli, cabbage, Brussels sprouts, etc.)
  • Take B-vitamins (in particular, B6, B12 and Folic Acid), as well as some hormone balancing formula that contains one or all of the following: DIM, Calcium-D-Glucarate, Indole-3-Carbinol, sulforaphane
  • Supplement with botanical that improve the function of the liver, like rosemary, burdock, red clover, barberry, milk thistle, dandelion root, Oregon grape root, gentian, licorice, ginger, wild yam.

Furthermore, in order to kick start your metabolism and improve your overall healthy by detoxifying and energizing the body, you should try some effective detox program, using medicinal herbs that are made using 100% USDA organic ingredients and also laxative-free, such as dandelion root, milk thistle seed (to improve detoxification of the liver), yerba mate and matcha ( to energize the body), or valerian root and passion flower to relax, and soothe anxious thoughts.

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